Looking back at 2025

Hey sexy readers,

It's been a busy year to the point that I have not really had the chance to put pen to paper or fingers to keyboard. However, so much has happened, both in terms of going to events and the way our dynamic has evolved over the year, that I thought it might be worth doing a short blog post to look back on the year. The big thing that happened was of course Mr L's trip away, where I unicorned hard for a month. I only really wrote about the Easter bunny event, but actually ended up doing something lifestyle related every weekend he was away! The readjustment to life after he got back home was not easy. After being able to go and do what I wanted for a month without having to take another person into account, I struggled to go back into that "half of a couple" mode. As the half of the couple who likes to throw herself into everything without much thinking, who is married to someone who likes to take their time and think things through, I had found it quite liberating to be able to be in the moment and throw myself into adventures. Going back to a slower pace was frustrating. This came to a head when within the first weeks of Mr L being home, I agreed to go to an event without him to accompany a friend's male friend to the club. Mr L was working that night and would have only had an hour at the club. In my mind I thought there was no point in him going so I had agreed to our friend's plan. Mr L reluctantly agreed and the fall out from that solo adventure was a long one. My keenness to have a solo adventure felt as rejection to him. As in me rejecting him and not wanting him. That was of course not the truth, I had the practical side on my mind and I did not want to start the night as a couple and then switch to solo. I worried that it would make the night awkward. But of course that is how it came across. It took us many months of talking to get through it. Mr L's feeling of rejection would be triggered at times where I least expected and we would have to take a step back and revisit.

The one thing that helped us more than anything to keep our relationship on track once we talked everything through, is ensuring that we also have some adventures with just the two of us together, whether it is a weekend away or just a night out where we have a meal and some drinks. We have noticed a real pattern that when that is lacking, we both start feeling like we are drifting apart. We now know that when we start feeling like this, it is a sign that we haven't actually spent time together without the presence of others in a while. This used to be easily built into our every day life, but with a house full of adult kids and older teens, it is almost impossible to be alone together!

As for new solo adventures, they aren't completely off the cards, but I haven't had one in a while. One thing is for sure: 2025 taught us a big lesson: we have to balance solo adventures and lifestyle adventures with "us time". It's very easy to fill every weekend with lifestyle events and catching up with friends and before you know it, you lose sight of yourself as a couple.

Of course I cannot look back at 2025 without thinking of our friends. We have made some amazing local friends. I don't mention them often in our blog, because I want to respect their privacy a little. We met our closest friends, J&M, in early 2024 and immediately hit it off. We often joke that I'm the female version of J. I'm not entirely sure if Mr L is the male version of M though. He is far less organised than she is! We are genuine pants on/pants off friends and I couldn't imagine life without them. We often go for nights out that then end in a hotel room or even just drinks and meals together. Most memorable are a comedy night where we genuinely made a comedian lost for words and our first ever trip to the Rocky Horror Show. Next year we are even planning a trip to Spain next year (not PDI though). Then of course we also have Matt and Jessica who you met in my blog post about the Easter Bunny party. We always have the best laugh with those two and have many naughty business ideas we really should start making reality. You never know, we might be sitting on our future millions! There are many more local friends of course, some have even invited us to a house party, but these 4 have been the main characters of 2025. I can't wait to see how many more friends we'll make in 2026. It feels like it has taken forever, but I do think we have finally found our little tribe.

And finally, I cannot look back at 2025 without talking about our continuing journey into kink. Out of the both of us, it is Mr L who is truly interested. I could easily never attend a kink event and not miss it. If you are reading this, you will probably know Mr L is interested in chastity play. I like the theory of it, as long as it comes with solo adventures for me, so I don't end up celibate as well! But the main difficulty we have with, is that I am still struggling with periods of low libido thanks to perimenopause, and when my mind is not on sex, I struggle to take on the persona of the key holder. My mind is on every day life and teasing Mr L or whatever else you're meant to do as a keyholder. As a result, the experience has not always lived up to expectation. Mr L would love me to be more dominant and although I can and enjoy taking on that dom role, again, I can really only do it when I'm in the mood. I need to have the right environment so I can get into the headspace. As well as the chastity kink, Mr L also is interested in attending more kink events. He really enjoys watching scenes and everything that goes on, while I get bored watching. My big issue with the local events is that sex is not allowed. While flogging, role playing might turn me on and I would want to have sex too. I don't really want to go somewhere if I can't actually finish, you know? That would be like edging and I hate edging. Honestly don't do that to me. Luckily our friend M was intrigued and so Mr L started going with her, while J kept me company. It was the perfect compromise where everyone was happy. And that, my sexy readers, was my 2025 round up. I know it's not the most sexy of reads, but as you can see, a lot has happened! I promise to write more in 2026. I think that so much of the lifestyle has become normal to me that I sometimes forget that others will find it an adventure worth reading about! I hope you all have a wonderful New Years Eve. We'll spend ours at our local club with some of our friends and after that we might go off on another birthday adventure, albeit not in the sun like the last 2 years. Love,

Mrs L xx